“You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is sitting back and observing things with logic. True power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.” - Warren Buffett
I'm back from my social media vacation. Here is what I have learned:
I don't need social media to survive. Taking a break allowed me to realize that checking Facebook and Twitter was almost a chore. I'm a type A guy and dislike having any notifications on my phone. If you have over 100 email notifications and little red dots by all your apps, we may have to talk about the future of our friendship. I have re-downloaded both social media apps but feel refreshed and have a better understanding of how to find an appropriate balance. On to the blog for this week....
Take a min. and just reread Warren Buffett's quote above. Warren is a guy who just feels like you're getting advice from your wise grandfather. I went to a wedding a few years ago and an older gentleman from Nebraska gave this advice to the bride and groom, "Take some time to watch the corn grow." I both loved and laughed at the advice but the most important thing was it caused an emotional reaction. Human emotions are what makes us the most complex creatures on Earth. Emotions can literally start a movement of change but they can also cause us to think and act illogically and irrationally. In today's polarizing world it seems that the entire media and news sectors are out to stir emotional reactions. We also all know that one person who loves to stir the pot. This week let's ask a driving question. "Did I do my best to NOT have an emotional reaction to everything that was said to me?" I love the driving questions because they all start with, "Did I do my best to.....". There is ownership to these statements. I shared this quote with my wife and it was awesome. We joked back and forth each time the other person talked or tried to get the last word by saying, "true power is restraint and to stop having emotional reactions to everything said." I wouldn't recommend saying this in the heat of an argument with your spouse but hopefully the concept adds value.
Don't continue to suffer and have your emotions controlled by others. Press pause, breathe, and remove the initial emotional response to observe things with logic.