If you don’t have a good time, it’s probably your own fault.
We recently took an all day guided tour to Milford Sound in New Zealand. It’s been said to be the 8th wonder of the world and the natural beauty is unbelievable. We embarked on a 12 hour all day trip in which we were picked up at 7:30 am and arrived home at 7:30 pm. Our driver, Graham, pulled up to our hotel and greeted us with an energy that was contagious without saying a word at all. His first spoken words after introducing himself were, “Good on ya mate”. I’m not entirely sure what that means but I knew we were in for a great day regardless of the sights. Within the first 10 min. of the tour as we drove in the darkness of the early morning, winding through the New Zealand mountainside town of Queenstown, Graham stated, “If you don’t have a good time today, it’s probably your own fault.” Some people may have been offended by this straight forward comment but his words stuck with me.
I started to think about all the times in my life where I had a bad experience. How often do I blame it on the circumstances or on the actions of others? I finished a book last year by Malcolm Gladwell called, “Triggers” in which he challenges you to live by driving questions that all start with, “Did I do my best to....be engaged, find meaning, build positive relationships, etc.?” So whether you’re on vacation visiting the 8th wonder of the world, going to work, at a movie, or out to dinner with friends, don’t forget to ask yourself your own set of driving questions. I am grateful to have meet Graham and his wise, loving, and energetic spirit. In a straight forward loving call to action in my best Graham voice, take ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and actions to live your best life.