“You’re never as bad as you think you are and you’re never as good as you think you are.”
This is the photo I wanted to use in my original post "Stuff". It doesn't make sense for this blog but I hope it makes you smile.
This is actually my second blog post this week. The first one was titled, “Stuff”. It was awesome and heartfelt and detailed and added value until…...it was deleted from my drafts. I invested over an hour into it, proofread, did some research and it even had a picture of my Christmas tree this year. Rather than rewriting the entire post trying to remember exactly what I wrote, I thought it would be much more fitting and authentic to post about, “When “Stuff” Doesn’t Work Out”. Do you see what I did there?
Unfortunately, we have all had stuff not work out how we had originally planned it. My first response were some choice words aloud and frustration. I’m not proud of the response but I’m sure you can relate. You may have been in a marriage or relationship that didn’t work out, your interview didn’t go as planned, or you bombed a presentation/test you prepared hours for. In my basketball playing days, a coach once told me, “You’re never as bad as you think you are and you’re never as good as you think you are.” This was great perspective to always keep me grounded and humble. So when things don’t work out, your aloud to be upset about it, you’re human. The trick is that you can’t let it keep you upset. If you are looking for a strategy you can use the 24 hour rule. Whether things go really, really well and exactly as planned or if they go so poorly you want to crawl into bed and never go out, you have 24 hours to either celebrate or cry and then move on. The rule fits in well with the idea of not living in the past. As Rob Lowe in Parks in Recreation says, there is LITERALLY...nothing you can do about it.
As a result of the blog mishap, I am now using Google Docs and then copying and pasting when ready. I know my blog deleting isn’t a real crisis and you may be experiencing much more pain now. I encourage you to implement the 24 hour rule and surround yourself with people who will make you better. When my blog deleted and I was cursing the tech gods, my wife only said two words, “I’m sorry” in an empathetic tone. It was a little thing, but it helped me move on. Be that person for someone struggling in your life today.