"Often it is not making the wrong decision that has the greatest cost, but choosing indecision that does"Let's get the important info. out of the way:
1.) I know you're jealous of our jumpsuits and utility belts 2.) The wind was 45-50 mph (Not a normal hairstyle for my wife) 3.) We were 440 ft. off the ground Heights are not my thing. My wife is more of the adrenaline junkie and has been skydiving. While in Sydney, we decided to climb to the summit of the Sydney Harbor Bridge. It's a 3 hour adventure in which you get suited up, trained, and then hike up and down the bridge. The utility belt is what keeps you attached to a cable that extends the length of the bridge. Although we had fears before and during the experience, it turned out to be the highlight of our time in Sydney. It was a once and a lifetime shared experience with my wife that I will never forget. I just finished reading, "Take the Stairs", which is an amazing book that sheds light on the idea of fear. The author, Rory Vaden, lists fear as one of the 3 main reasons (entitlement, perfectionism, fear) people struggle with inaction or procrastination. He states, action is the cure for fear and that it's okay to be scared, but do it scared. Often it is not making the wrong decision that has the greatest cost, but indecision that does. If I had let my fear of heights get in the way, I would not have experienced what turned out to be a highlight of our trip. So what fear is holding you back? Is it starting that business you've always wanted to start, changing careers, asking someone out on a date (do people still do this), or facing your fear of heights? Just remember, often it is not making the wrong decision that has the greatest cost, but choosing indecision that does!
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If you don’t have a good time, it’s probably your own fault. We recently took an all day guided tour to Milford Sound in New Zealand. It’s been said to be the 8th wonder of the world and the natural beauty is unbelievable. We embarked on a 12 hour all day trip in which we were picked up at 7:30 am and arrived home at 7:30 pm. Our driver, Graham, pulled up to our hotel and greeted us with an energy that was contagious without saying a word at all. His first spoken words after introducing himself were, “Good on ya mate”. I’m not entirely sure what that means but I knew we were in for a great day regardless of the sights. Within the first 10 min. of the tour as we drove in the darkness of the early morning, winding through the New Zealand mountainside town of Queenstown, Graham stated, “If you don’t have a good time today, it’s probably your own fault.” Some people may have been offended by this straight forward comment but his words stuck with me.
I started to think about all the times in my life where I had a bad experience. How often do I blame it on the circumstances or on the actions of others? I finished a book last year by Malcolm Gladwell called, “Triggers” in which he challenges you to live by driving questions that all start with, “Did I do my best to....be engaged, find meaning, build positive relationships, etc.?” So whether you’re on vacation visiting the 8th wonder of the world, going to work, at a movie, or out to dinner with friends, don’t forget to ask yourself your own set of driving questions. I am grateful to have meet Graham and his wise, loving, and energetic spirit. In a straight forward loving call to action in my best Graham voice, take ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and actions to live your best life. |